What is Love?: How Going Vegan Showed Me What Love Really Is

29 thoughts on “What is Love?: How Going Vegan Showed Me What Love Really Is”

  1. Great post Kara. It’s funny how you can grow up all your life thinking you can”love” animals but not question the many ways you are hurting them & being part of their hell. Only when I became vegan did I realise that true love for animals is selfless. It means letting them exist for their own reasons and not ours. Just because someone ‘owns’ a dog & treats it well does not make them an ‘animal lover’, not while they abuse others by eating & wearing them, or using them for entertainment or buying products tested on them.

  2. Loving only certain types of animals, is a playing of favoritism. The whole subject is fairly complex, because there are so many myths and long-held beliefs, about eating the ‘died-too-soon’ and ‘wasn’t cared for with optimum ability’ animals’ organs and muscle tissues, which had been used for sensing and mobility functioning in their environment.

    If it can feel, it’s a living creature. How do you know it can feel? Only if you are very calm, could you find out. To be very calm, one can’t always be destroying various creatures’ “lives in progress”, which for them, is just aimed at, say, peace and comfort, even if it doesn’t have an individual personality the way humans are said to.

    It’s a catch-22 in the sense that he doesn’t want to make people feel dumb for how they choose to eat and live. Many (many) people are particularly stubborn about this topic, because they don’t think they will get the energy requirements for daily interaction, if they were to give up participating in killing animals before their natural death.

  3. If indeed it would be wrong to blame our parents (and generations before) because they may not have known otherwise… I’m hoping you can see that it would also be wrong to blame yourself for not knowing better. You say you can never forgive yourself for your lack of knowledge and second-hand “complicity” in just following the ways your were taught. I suggest you’ve earned every right to let that sadness go! Easier said than done – But as an ethical vegan who IS walking the walk – You owe it to your gentle heart to find peace in that. ❤

    Lovely post… Thank you.

    1. Thank you, Bea. I know I can’t blame myself for my ignorance, but in many ways I wasn’t as ignorant as one would think. We live in an age of technology and information. We all reach a point where we know that animals are suffering for our food fetishes — as in we know that meat is a dead animal — but still manage to flip a switch in our minds allowing us to ignore it. I knew I was complicit, but I did nothing to change. I just looked around me and saw that everyone else was fine with it, so why should I not be? I wish I could bring back all of the animals I’ve wronged throughout my life, but of course I can’t, so my activism is the only way for me to try to rectify my mistakes.

      Thank you for reminding me that I’m not that person anymore. ❤

      1. Great blog, and I like much of what you say in this particular post, but there’s one thing about this one that I find puzzling. You speak of animals’ ability to forgive, but you’re not willing to forgive yourself, which I really don’t understand. Aren’t you an animal yourself? And what about us? We all did the same as you, participating in animal exploitation because we were taught by people around us to think of it as “normal” and acceptable, until one day the light bulb went on and we became vegan and stopped choosing to hurt animals. Do you not forgive us, either? (Or people who become vegan in the future?) That would be the logically consistent view, since our actions were no different than yours. And if, on the other hand, you do forgive others but not yourself, why the inconsistency? Why are you judging yourself by a different standard than others?

        1. I think I’m harder on myself than I am on other people. You’re right, it is inconsistent. It’s illogical for me to continue to blame myself for actions I no longer do while forgiving others for doing the same things I did in the past.

          Sometimes I just can’t help wishing I could talk to myself when I was younger and snap some sense into me. But things fell into place the way they did when they did and for this I am glad. For many, this realization never happens at all and then everyone loses.

          I’m slowly working on forgiving myself. Writing this blog is a way for me to repent and redeem the wrongs of my past. If I can help others make this connection sooner, it will be easier to forgive myself. At least a few times a week I’ll have readers of my blog email me that this or that article helped them start thinking about going vegan or was the final push they needed to go all the way. Every single one of these emails chips away a tiny bit of the guilt I have within me.

  4. Hi, I reached your blog because a vegan group in my city, Buenos Aires (Argentina) is translating your 10 myths about veganism. I was reading them all here, I found this list or things veganism would prevent:

    Some of the deadliest and most prevalent diseases including: cancer, heart disease, diabetes, osteoarthritis and obesity
    World hunger
    Groundwater contamination
    Deforestation around the world, including rainforests
    Topsoil erosion
    Greenhouse gas production
    Racism, sexism and cruelty in general

    (that’s in myth 10). So i’m here, in Buenos Aires, i became vegan three months ago, i’m completely sure about my decision, but I find hard to explain to someone how going vegan helps, for example, groundwater contamination, since I don’t know it. Or deforestation. Topsoil erosion, greenhouse gas production. I saw some videos and I’m reading everything I can (that’s how i got here!), but could you help me with that?
    Medical issues, for example, I found some articles about how bad milk and milky products are, but I can’t get my father’s wife to stop feeding my little sister with milk. Which is the most “serious”, “undeniable” medical article you know about that?
    Besides my sister, a friend’s mother is having for dinner “cheese and a glass of milk” since the doctor told her that to fight osteoporosis. She’s a occidental, western cientific believer, she needs “proofs”. !!!!

    As I write I realize most people won’t hear anyway, or at least that’s what has happened to me in my discussions. It’s hard to transmit that “connection” you wrote about, most people don’t want to even see a half hour video. But it would be good to have all these reasons organized in my head.
    The thing is I had some sad days living around people who don’t want to hear the first thing about all this: my girlfriend, brother, friends, etc. How do you do it?
    Sometimes I think I’ll have to go live in a vegan-colony or something (do they exist?), as I feel treated as “the weird” and no reasons are heard.
    Sorry for this loooooooooooooooooooong post.

    1. Hi, Santiago. Thanks for visiting my blog!

      First, I must congratulate you on going vegan. You are someone who not only talks the talk, but walks the walk.

      About your question, here are some of the most reliable sources of proof that animal products (chiefly dairy products) are detrimental to human and environmental health:

      Forks Over Knives (available on Netflix)
      The China Study (I linked to the one that has been translated into Spanish)
      – My blog post: Forget Everything You Thought You Knew About Nutrition, Fitness and Health (full of links to very informative and reputable sources like doctors, body builders and dietitians)
      – My blog post: The End of the World May Soon Become a Reality

      I totally understand how you feel isolated. I think most vegans have been in that same situation. I even discuss this issue in my post: The 1 Reason Your Vegan Diet Will Fail Every Time.

      That’s the reason I created Vegan Mentors. It’s a group on Facebook to help keep you connected what we all consider to be our extended vegan family.

      Here is the group’s description:

      Vegan Mentors is a group where aspiring and newbie vegans can come to ask questions without fear or judgement or ridicule, to share their experiences along their vegan journey and to feel supported by a network of vegans from around the world acting as one vegan family.

      There are aspiring vegans and vegan veterans. We are all here to support each other and to help each other become better advocates for the animals and planet we love.

      Most vegan mentoring programs connect you with someone one-on-one, but in those situations your mentor may not always be able to help you out and you may not get along as well as you’d like. Vegan Mentors is great, because you can get advice and support 24/7 (made even easier with the Facebook smartphone app) from a wide variety of different people with different backgrounds and different subjects they specialize in. Just ‘ask to join’ the group, and we’ll add you in. 😀

  5. Beautiful post and so well put. I totally agree with you. I grew up with cats and gave them all my attention and I also thought this was love. One minute i would pet one, the next I would eat chicken. We are so brainwashed by this speciesist culture that waking up from this matrix takes time to adjust and it is shocking.

  6. I absolutely love this post. When you talk about being young and being forced to eat animals without question, without a choice, that really got to me. I’m only 16 but I’ve recently found that i really do have a choice, and that being vegan is the right one. It happened about a very simple but beautiful story, really.
    One day i was walking my dog and there was a young male deer walking across the road. My dog stopped, and i reassured him, but at that moment i thought,”why would anyone want to end something so beautiful and free? What gives us the right?”
    Anyways, i really appreciate this post. My parents may have been oblivious to choice then, but not now. They know, as well as many others, of the horrors that animals endure to please our taste buds. The sad part is, they continue to carry on like they never heard it. Sometimes i feel alone in my journey to become less selfish, and it really boggles me when others oppose my choice or even question it. Seeing posts like these really hearten me. Thank you.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your story. So many other people would have walked by that deer and thought “cool” and gone about their day, have a steak dinner for instance. But in that moment your consciousness shifted to a more enlightened state and you were able to see the connection between us all.

      I’m sorry your parents still haven’t come to the same realization you have. It can be tough, especially when you still have to be around them, live in their house, etc. But the good thing about parents is that you can usually pester them more than other people about animal rights issues. They’re kind of stuck with you, you know? Hehe.

      I’m glad this post helped you and if you need support, I’m always here.

  7. Great blog and I really identify with your personal experience and that of of others who have commented. I came across you earlier tonight when a Facebook page I like shared your excellent blog about ‘backyard chickens’. I too was a meat eating ‘animal lover’ and then became vegetarian around 7 years ago. But I’ve gradually realised that there is also no such thing as a vegetarian ‘animal lover’ (thanks to people like you), and that going vegan is the only true way to love animals, and Santiago, this album should answer most of your questions 🙂


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